We’ve set our goals. We’ve hopefully identified a bigger problem (pain) and identified a correction mechanism by visiting a doctor or a physio. Let’s continue gearing up for change, and we come to one of the most important things — the difference between success and failure — building a support system. I’ve written about this earlier, but it bears repeating.
I’ve realized how big a truism it is, while going through my injury hell. My primary focus has been a bit selfish — get my leg better. And this has meant that I don’t pull my weight in a lot of things. When contrasted with experiences of other folks (who fail), who either skip on rehabilitation from injury or fail in their journey to getting fit, there’s two things that will make the difference. One is your mental attitude. The second, the folks who you surround yourself with. And the latter obviously influences the first.
I am not big on PDA, and this is as close as it gets. I am extremely grateful to my wife, my friends, my business partner, The Quad Squad, and my family who’ve been awesome in putting up with me. From driving me around, to easing my workload, and being understanding when I don’t take part in usual activities — they’ve been immense. And this lets me focus on my knee.
Your support system is truly your foundation for fitness, for a healthier life. You can set all the fancy goals you want — no junk food, will go walking everyday let’s say. But if your jackass friend comes home with dark chocolate milkshakes from Sandy’s, how many times can you have a staring contest with that deliciousness and come out on top? Or if your family keeps bringing you glorious sweets to “help you feel better”. Sure, they have good intentions, but you got to do what is best for you. So, here’s what you are gonna do,
- Ask for help where you need it. If you don’t want to eat junk food, don’t stock it. And ask your friends/family who drop by to not bring any. It could be as simple as this, or “Can you wake me up at 6am everyday?” — whatever help you need.
- Find a supporting circle who will motivate you, and not mock you if you fail/slip. If you find someone making fun of you when you tell them your fitness goal, smack them in the face. Or well, at least, stay away from them. They are poison to your goal.
- Be accountable. Find someone who will be honest, and not coddle you. Set measurable targets, and let them give you feedback. If they think you can do better, evaluate it, and figure out how to.
- Remember, this is not just about effort. At the end of the day, it is about results. Not necessarily numbers, but results nonetheless.
- Be part of a “get fit” community. It helps to know there are other people out there going through something similar. You can learn from them, be motivated by them, and motivate them!
- Find a workout partner, and make sure they are equally motivated. Or you can find multiple workout partners — whatever suits you. Make sure all of this is aiding you. Which means you got to keep measuring progress.
- It is not just elite athletes who need a support system. Figure this out over this week!
The video doesn’t have anything to do with this post. But you should check it out, wondrous piece of skill by Robin Van Persie!
Clichés exist for a reason, coz they are so frickin’ right. You are who you surround yourself with. And in this case too, you can only achieve your goal if you are mentally ready for it, and you have the right group of people who want the same thing you want. Take this seriously, coz it is the difference between success and failure.