framework - Arv' Musings

The drama triangle and other stories

Learning to separate facts from stories is imperative. Hold on to your stories with curiosity. Your stories are your framings from your limited perspective. Many a time, your stories are triggered by implicit memories from childhood which you haven't addressed.

framework

How much is too much?

Having too much is a confounding method of copping out from figuring out what I need to be doing.

discussion

The KB swing is awesome but is it awesome for you?

The complication is the fine print. You need good technique. To get adequate benefits. And you need GREAT technique to compound the benefits over time. The movement is not as important as your ability in the movement.

discussion

The issue with advice

When you ask for advice, know that no one can or should be able to answer this question for you. If someone attempts to, it is a good litmus test (that you should be warier of what they are saying.)

challenge

Keep doing more of this with the goal of stopping

And so, we are all stuck in a fucktarded trap. Where we all think we will find salvation by doing more of this and we'll get out of here where we can start doing less of this, once we get there.

discussion

To stand still against the current

Recently, I had the chance to do something interesting - to eat by myself. I thought I could do this anytime. But that's because I did it while reading a book, which for some reason I didn't think was the same as a distraction like watching TV. It is, as much of a book snob, as I might be.

discussion

A few fundamentals we shy away from

the unfortunate definition of a blind spot is that you don't know what it is. By asking for feedback from the people I spend a lot of time with, by journaling and by reading those journals, I've been able to decipher these rather fundamental things.

coaching

Books, Challenges and Tools

Hacks and ShortcutsWe want insights. We want hacks. We want shortcuts. We want packaged knowledge. Books are a great example of an attempt to impart knowledge and wisdom. They encapsulate the author's journey in understanding something. And their attempt at putting together the learnings.

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Listening to your Body

When you are angry, your body feels a different way. You feel the rage heat up inside you and it pours out of you as expletives at the jackass who cut you off on the road. Every emotion, every feeling, every thought, every arising has a longer tail.

diet

Why carbs are NOT the enemy but you still need to eat less of them

What's the deal with demonising carbs? This is the article that explains why that's flawed and what the real issues are

discussion

Zooming out and a sense of time

One limitation in our progress is our handicap of looking at time. Using one hundred years as a lifetime, we tend to focus on short durations. The disruptions we are producing i.e. the variables in the system we are affecting are unbeknownst to us.

coaching

Goal Setting and Milestones to Guide your Physical Training

Strength is the foundation of everything. Whatever your sport/activity of choice is, getting StrongEnough will help you excel in it. Whether it is long-distance running or playing a racquet sport or practicing a martial art - the stronger you are, the more you can do.

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Delaying the Morning Coffee

If you are dependent on your coffee, are prone to energy crashes during the day, read on. I'll explain how you can use your coffee to your advantage, reduce your energy crashes, fall asleep faster and sleep better.

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Do First, Understand Later.

The lesser room one gives for their ego, the easier things are. Do first. Understand later. Asking questions is mandatory. But do first. Until you know better questions to ask.

coaching

The Particle and the Wave

The world around us wants to divide us. And because we need to be here or there, we pick an extreme. Or worse, we choose inaction. Because deep down, we don’t agree with the extremes. That’s great. But we need to use the complementary theory here to dig deeper into our perspective.

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The Hardware and Software of it

As the software improves, the outcomes improve. And then, you will see a spurt in the hardware improvement.

sleep

Having difficulty falling asleep?

You take too long to fall asleep. You get anxious about falling asleep. You have difficulty staying asleep. If you are unable to fall asleep immediately, this is for you. And yes, falling asleep immediately is a skill you can learn and cultivate.

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Friday Thought: The Law of Inertia

It is not really laziness but when something is not yet our habit, going against the current is hard. And we give up and do something else that's easier. Which is to continue going down the path of least resistance.

coaching

on Streaks and Cycles

The problem is streaks are not sustainable. It is not their job to be sustainable. Their job is to shake you up, to get you out of your rut, to get you way past your comfort zone and then some.

coaching

Learn from yourself

Have you learned something fundamentally true about yourself from someone else? Something that you could not have come up with by steadfastly sitting with yourself and your organised thought? I seriously doubt it.

daily9

Measure the Effort

it is straightforward to recognise that it is a dumbed-down tool. A tool designed to solve a problem - sift through a large number of people and rank them. Then, put them into appropriate buckets.

coaching

How to Plank Hard Enough to Hold Up a Building

The plank is one of the fundamental ways in which you re-train yourself to use your body the way it should be.

framework

The Boring Truth

But the truth of most matters has not changed in a long time. Most of the fundamentals about lifting and nutrition have been around from before I was born.

coaching

Remove the option to change your mind

Every time you fail, you give in to the pain becomes one more thing your log to solve for the next time. Shift your mindset, stop berating yourself about failures.

challenge

Challenge yourself. But what comes after?

You find something else that grows you and challenges you. Whether it is a path that forks off the main one or is tangential to it - as long as you connect with it. But one thing is clear - staying on top AND doing something else makes little sense.