Is it not a great tragedy that almost all of us are only concerned with how to fit into society or how to reform it?
– Jiddu Krishnamurti
We are made into pattern machines from a young age. We are programmed into doing certain things and exhibiting certain behaviours. I spent many years adrift not having a clue what I wanted to be or do.
I don't know about fitting in or not fitting in, or if that's even relevant. What I did find relevant was finding a place where I could ask questions, the stupidest of questions, and go on a journey of discovery. Which is why even though I do nothing related to what I studied in grad school, those were my formative years.
But the true question is: "Are you becoming the type of person you want to become?" The first step is not what or how, but who. You need to know who you want to be. Otherwise, your quest for change is like a boat without a rudder.
– James Clear, from Atomic Habits
Even in health and fitness, this deep question is relevant. From my experience, personal and of many of my students, I've seen that we undergo a remarkable transformation of identity. It starts with a what - I want to lose 10 kilos - mostly. But along the way, if we discover the who, good things seem to happen.
Whom the Gods wish to destroy, they first call promising.
– Cyril Connolly
As a stupid kid who got good marks in school and thought he was awesome shit, I completely agree. I wish I had read this quote back then. And more importantly, understood it.
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