life - Arv' Musings

Learning from Imperfect Actions: Turning Negativity into Personal Growth

In your daily life, you often encounter situations where you witness people making poor decisions. Or engaging in actions that you find distasteful. It's natural to react with judgment or disapproval. But instead of reacting, you can use these experiences as opportunities

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Transform your life: Why fitness, nutrition, and lifestyle changes are for the long haul

Let's optimise for health while allowing for life. For the rest of our lives.

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The Deeper Cost of Milder Distractions and Addictions

take it from me, use your distractions wisely and you'll be cranking out top-notch work in no time. It starts with awareness. So, what are those pesky addictions and distractions that pull you away from being your best self?

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Do you check-in with yourself?

Coasting and doingWith a lot going on, it is easy to get distracted by "doing". As a chronic overthinker, it is difficult to know if I am caught up in the midst of overthinking. Or if I am coasting. Spending time writing is an

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Listen to yourself

I am coming to the frightening realisation that every answer that I look for - in books, in mentors, in deconstructing the actions of much smarter people - is already inside me.

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Four things that caught my eye this month

Laws of valuation, Have the willingness to pay talk early, the dubious rise of imposter syndrome, and ALOK

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Changing your mind is a GOOD thing

ou are not the same person you were 10 years ago. Heck, 10 days ago. Change is the only constant. Be true to yourself. Follow your intuition. Question everything. Including your stances.

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Understand and replenish your energy

Understanding my energy levels, paying attention it, and then setting my "best" for the day has made a big difference. It has led to the larger goal of self-kindness be more effective.

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Consistently Intense is your path to burning out

Sprinting with inadequate recovery leads to reduced performance. And if you do not rest enough before your next sprint session, you will eventually injure yourself. You think a cheetah can sprint 10 kilometres?!

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The drama triangle and other stories

Learning to separate facts from stories is imperative. Hold on to your stories with curiosity. Your stories are your framings from your limited perspective. Many a time, your stories are triggered by implicit memories from childhood which you haven't addressed.

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How much is too much?

Having too much is a confounding method of copping out from figuring out what I need to be doing.

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The bane of weighing yourself

But the association of how good a person you are, how good you should feel about yourself, how much you should berate yourself, how much harder you should work at the gym, how much starvation you are going to endure - that's all coming from somewhere inside of you.

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The issue with advice

When you ask for advice, know that no one can or should be able to answer this question for you. If someone attempts to, it is a good litmus test (that you should be warier of what they are saying.)

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There's a cost to everything, including passion. Especially passion.

There is a cost to everything we do. Knowing the cost is important. Knowing our values and our end game, equally so. And then, we can start working on ensuring that we aren't fucking ourselves up while narrowmindedly going towards a goal that does NOT encompass all of us.

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Keep doing more of this with the goal of stopping

And so, we are all stuck in a fucktarded trap. Where we all think we will find salvation by doing more of this and we'll get out of here where we can start doing less of this, once we get there.

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Start with recovery: 7 strategies to feel amazing

When you are unwell, you feel like staying in bed for longer. You want to push work away and instead vegetate on the couch, watch some mindless TV. That's your body getting what it needs - minimal calorie expenditure and lots of rest.

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On why we are bored and dissatisfied

One is to keep accumulating new experiences. There are infinite options out there. This intuitively sounds silly. If you got bored with the first 20, the next 200 will lead to the same end.

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To stand still against the current

Recently, I had the chance to do something interesting - to eat by myself. I thought I could do this anytime. But that's because I did it while reading a book, which for some reason I didn't think was the same as a distraction like watching TV. It is, as much of a book snob, as I might be.

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A few fundamentals we shy away from

the unfortunate definition of a blind spot is that you don't know what it is. By asking for feedback from the people I spend a lot of time with, by journaling and by reading those journals, I've been able to decipher these rather fundamental things.

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Zooming out and a sense of time

One limitation in our progress is our handicap of looking at time. Using one hundred years as a lifetime, we tend to focus on short durations. The disruptions we are producing i.e. the variables in the system we are affecting are unbeknownst to us.

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Is it possible to quit your favourite thing?

It is a tool and a tool you can use to learn a deeper skill. That you can deprive yourself and be comfortable with the discomfort.

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Hustle Hustle Hustle

I think we get confused between hard work and application versus the constant craving and desire for more.

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Work Anytime, Anywhere

But the dark side of everything needs vigilance. The doom scrolling, the endless notifications, the FOMO - all wreak havoc on our senses. If you are always reachable, you have to answer the phone anytime or respond to texts and emails within a short window.

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The Stuff of Miracles

The gap between what you know and what you do. That is the real issue.

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The Particle and the Wave

The world around us wants to divide us. And because we need to be here or there, we pick an extreme. Or worse, we choose inaction. Because deep down, we don’t agree with the extremes. That’s great. But we need to use the complementary theory here to dig deeper into our perspective.